A brother said this why trying to ask a sis out; "sister Funmi, I dont have any feelings for you, no iota of love. If you were the only lady on earth, you couldnt have been my choice but God has been dealing with me of late about you and I cant be disobedient to the heavenly vision... Lets marry to do God's will."

Laughable...

One of the often question people ask me; what of if I dont love whom God is leading me to?
My answer is always simple; Dont marry him! You shouldnt event start a relationship...

Aaah, pastor Soji but its God oo... God doesnt force people on who to marry. Even salvation that is so important to God is your choice.

....and dont give me that theory that God forced Adam to marry Eve. God never did... It was Adam that confirmed her, God only present Eve.

Exactly what I mean... God will present your spouse, you have the right to confirm him/her.

Who told you love is not important to enact a relationship? I guarantee you, if you overlook love and start a relationship, it will definitely hunt you in marriage.

Jacob wasnt inlove with Leah, she was forced on him. She tried all her life to win his love by giving birth to more children but Jacob's love was with Rachel even though she was barren. Gen 29:29-31.

You dont substitute Love for God's will!

Am I saying "God" cant lead you to someone you dont love initially? No!
I am saying if you feel led, wait for the love to develop before you say yes or prospose.
He is the one who told us about the great love for others that the holyspirit has given you.Col1:8(NLT)... You mean the Holyspirit can give me great love for someone? Yes! So if God is involve, love will eventually be involved.

Become friends by knowing the person more, maybe feelings will ignite. If not, walk away.

Soji David Lawal
Life Coach.

God is leading me... but I don't love him!

  • Posted by Lawal Soji David
  • September 7, 2015 11:40 AM CEST
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  • Atolani Abari likes this
  • temitope ettu
    temitope ettu Many Thanks Pastor. Soji for this message: But the statement 'You don't substitute Love for God's will!'' I don't quiet agree with you. God is not an author of CONFUSION; if He is the one leading not the flesh, the love grows. Love is never just a...  more
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  • Lawal Soji David
    Lawal Soji David Temitope ettu i totally agree with you. my point is if it is God leading you, you will love the person eventually but until you can subdue the flesh and love the person dont say yes just remain friends. if you say yes to someone you dont love you will...  more
    September 9, 2015 - Report
  • Atolani Abari
    Atolani Abari Hnnmmmmm! i've got something vital from your post. Thanks a bunch. There's this guy that has been coming around (almost a year). He told me to my face that he doesn't have an iota of feeling for me but for the fact that he's led of God, he has no choice...  more
    December 15, 2015 - Report