Three things you should be ready to do for your man

  • Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. (Ephesians 5:22 KJV)
    There are a few things you need to know about men. Men have certain needs. When a man had a relationship with God, he is better able to handle those needs as it relates to his fiancee or wife. 

What does a man want? Let’s consider a few of them.
    1. He wants his ego massaged constantly
    2. He wants to be respected
    3. He wants to be satisfied sexually
    1. He wants his ego massaged constantly
    Never try to crush a man’s ego.
    Let me give you a sample. You and your husband are dining along side another couple. The other lady goes like, ‘one thing I like about my husband is that he is so patient with me, always available to even help me out in the kitchen most times” And then, you go like, “You are so lucky! My own husband? He is so lazy and behaves like an impatient drone. Rather than for him to help me out on the kitchen, he prefers to sit down playing cards with little kids like a deranged man. I wish he is like your husband…you are so lucky o.” This looks like an extreme example, but anything like this, you have just finished the man, he would look for ways to finish you as well, because you just crushed his ego publicly! A man’s ego is so important to him that even if you try crushing it in privacy when you are alone, he will react immediately, not to talk of openly. It is not the way to go.
    2. Be ready to respect him
    If you are a lady, and your song is ‘he never listens to me,’ I can tell you what is happening. Somewhere in his mind, he believes you are disrespectful.’ So any attempt to make contributions he flares up! You know why? He sees your contributions as trying to usurp his authority and he shuts you down or ignores you. When you find yourself in this kind of situation, rather than fight back or withdraw in frustration, try making adjustments in how you respect him, even in your choice of words and tone of voice, it all matters.
    But Pastor, he doesn’t love me, why should I respect him? The instruction in Ephesians 5 is not a 50-50 contract. It’s a 100% instruction. You are not to respect him because he loves you, you are to submit to him because he is your husband. The same goes for men, you don’t love your wife because she respects you, you are to love her because she is your wife. When couples starts seeing it this way, they will be amazed at the changes that will take place in their marriage!
    Now, listen to this, if you are so independent and you are not ready to respect and submit to your husband, you are not ready for marriage! It doesn't matter whether you earn more than him or whether you are more travelled, he remains the head of the house. There cannot be two heads in the house, any two headed creature is a monster. This is how God instituted it, and that is how it is going to work.
    For singles in courtship, here is what you need to know. Never ever try disobeying God in any way because you want to respect your fiancé. For example, he asks you to come over and spend the weekend with him while you are not yet married. You have every right to disagree on that because you and I know what that would lead to.
    3. Be ready to satisfy him sexually
    Young wives, you need to know that sex in not a tool for punishment or reward. When he is nice and has bought something for you, you cooperate with him. When he has not been nice, you start singing ‘my head, my shoulder, my knees, my toes, they all are paining me! That is not fair! Well, the scripture admonishes couples, ‘defruad ye not one another!’ The scripture calls it a fraud when you deny one another without genuine reasons! And really, genuine reasons should only come up once in a while!
    Why is sex so important to men? It is because of their wiring, it is not their fault. However, the scripture makes it clear that sexual relationship should only be with your spouse, not with a colleague or somebody you met in a one nightstand somewhere! The consequences of adultery are debilitating. It comes with agony and regret!
    Protect your marriage by enjoying each other and never denying each other. For a lady, it is more than a physical work out, it is an emotional thing for her, so when she is hurt, she may not be able to release herself. This is why it is important to forgive easily and let go…because you are still one! It is also why you should treat your wife gently and be caring!
    For the singles, you are not to satisfy anybody until after marriage. You can put forth all kind of lame excuses why it should happen but that is not God’s order. If you are going to have God’s support, favour and help in this life, then you had better do it God’s way. And I really don’t think anybody wants to live without God’s support, favour and help in this life. Those are what would distinguish and make a difference in your life.
    If as a married couple, you are already involved with adultery or with pre-marital sex as a single, it is never too late to ask God for forgiveness and turn around in your ways. That is how not to delay yourself or slow yourself down.
    Conclusively, you will never be able to ‘insure’ any relationship or ‘keep’ a man through compromise. Your body is not a commodity to trade; it is the temple of the Holy Ghost! Respect your body and don’t trade it around because God puts a lot of value on your body and on your person!

    I have God's wisdom to succeed on earth

    Pray that God will open the eyes of your understanding

    "Wives, understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ."  (Eph 5:22, MSG)

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