Falling in love before falling in love

  • 13th March, twenty years ago, was when my wife said “Yes!”
    Can I tell you the truth? The Holy Spirit helped me out on the process. I mean I cannot extricate the ministry of the Holy Spirit from the whole experience!
    He literally helped me to get my wife!
    Oh, dear Pastor, you mean the Holy Spirit is interested in that area of my life?
    Yes, He is very much interested, much more than you are interested.
    Joh 14:26 (KJV)
    But the Comforter, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, he shall teach you ALL THINGS, and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you.
    That scripture did not say He will teach us some spiritual stuffs, but ALL THINGS!
    He is a friend that is by us all the time!
    The greatest friend you will ever have is not your lover, not your old school mate, not some special friend somewhere but the Holy Spirit!
    It is the greatest spiritual help that has been made available for you on the planet earth.
    Without Him, Christianity can be boring and frustrating.
    You may be a Catholic, Anglican, Methodist or Orthodox, all those are just nomenclatures, the baseline is that you need help, and the help that has been made available to you is the Holy Spirit.
    A believer has not been configured to survive alone. You have been made to require help and that help comes from God through the Holy Spirit.
    Joh 14:18 (BBE)
    I will not let you be without a friend: I am coming to you.
    Here is Jesus telling us, that He will come to us through a friend, and that is the Holy Spirit.
    If you are believer, you already have an experience with the Holy Spirit, but there is a higher experience which is referred to as the Holy Spirit Baptism, with the evidence of speaking in tongues.
    Oh, how you need that experience! It is the inner advantage you have, my dear!
    When you are down, He strengthens you, when you are feeling depressed, He stirs up joy in you, when you are down, He energises you and so on.
    He is here to help.
    Do you need help? Do you feel down and out? Do you have burn out? Are you beginning to feel, that living for God is not worth it? Do you read your Bible and you cannot understand a thing? Do you feel like you should go back to being an unbeliever? Do you regret giving your life to Jesus? Are you constantly envying your friends who don't know God? Do you still slip back into doing those old things you used to do?
    I know what is happening. You need help. And that help is in the Holy Spirit!
    But Pastor, my problem is that I cannot be speaking a language I don't understand! But you are living in a world you don't understand, you eat food you don't understand, you are dealing with people you don't understand, you are going to get married to someone you don't understand, you are fighting a devil you cannot see or understand, how come you cannot speak in tongues?
    Think about it! When you speak in tongues, even though you don't understand initially, your spirit communicates directly to God and leaves the devil confused!
    Th Holy Spirit will help you decide who to get married to, He will help you to know the right person. He will help you to choose rightly. He will warn you against an impostor and a deceiver. He will tell you if a guy is hiding some things.
    He will simply show you, because He is your friend!
    If you are already filled with the Holy Spirit with evidence of speaking in tongues, then you must protect that relationship.
    How do you do that? You must avoid grieving the Holy Spirit.
    Eph 4:30 KJV
    And grieve not the Holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption.
    The next question is what are those things that can grieve the Holy Spirit?
    Eph 4:31 KJV
    Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:
    These are the things to avoid, single or married.
    In courtship, in marriage, do all you can to avoid anger, wrath, bitterness and all the other things listed above, they are the things that grieve the Holy Spirit.
    There is no time to pick all these one by one and explain, but Amplified Bible explains a little further:
    Eph 4:31 AMP
    Let all bitterness and indignation and wrath (passion, rage, bad temper) and resentment (anger, animosity) and quarreling (brawling, clamor, contention) and slander (evil-speaking, abusive or blasphemous language) be banished from you, with all malice (spite, ill will, or baseness of any kind).
    In marriage especially, when you are have issues with one another, and you are in strife and you are bitter, know that it does not affect just you and your spouse, there is also the Holy Spirit who can be grieved.
    One of the wisest thing to do is never to grieve your help! So you avoid all the above listed as much as you can.
    Why would you say you are in courtship and yet you have been fighting for a month, angry and bitter? Well, beyond trying to deal with your lover, you are also grieving the Holy Spirit, and that is not something you should do if you want His help!
    He is the one that owns you and make things go round for you, so you don't want to hurt the Holy Spirit in your bid to deal with somebody else!
    Eph 4:30 GNB
    And do not make God's Holy Spirit sad; for the Spirit is God's mark of ownership on you, a guarantee that the Day will come when God will set you free.
    I am going to stop here this morning, but I want you to start protecting your relationship with the Holy Spirit from today. It is not everything you should get angry over. It is not everything you should quarrel about. It is not everything you should react to. Be matured, be spiritual and do not be carnally minded.
    If you are yet to be filled with the Holy Spirit, you need Him. You will never be able to live above sin without the Help of the Holy Spirit! To stop fulfilling the works of the flesh, you need to walk in the Spirit!
    It is perfectly in order to say that before you fall in love with that guy or lady, fall in love with the Holy Spirit first.
    May God grant more understanding!
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    I will be conscious not to grieve the Holy Spirit

    Ask for fresh oil from the Holy Spirit

    Eph 4:31 MSG
    Make a clean break with all cutting, backbiting, profane talk.

    Talk to the Holy Spirit as your friend

    Numbers 16 - 17

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