A Few Things I Have Learnt in Seventeen Years of Marriage

  • By Pastor Sophia
     

    Today is our 17th wedding anniversary. How it looked like a few years ago!
     
    I am grateful to God who helped us know and follow His will and leading. God has been so good and faithful to us. We look back and all we can see is that He indeed cares for His own.
     
    He is a loving father who bears us. I am particularly grateful to God for it has not been by power nor might but by God's spirit. My heart overflows with thanksgiving for God's faithfulness over the years.
     
    God gave me a wonderful husband, selfless, courageous and loving. A man who loves the Lord and seek to impact lives in his generation.
     
    Today, I will like to share a few out of some of the things I have learnt in 17 years of marriage.
     
    1. Allow God to choose for you.
     
    Gen 2:21  
    And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;
     
    The importance of this cannot be over emphasized. This stands as the very foundation of many years of blissful, peaceful, prosperous marital journey. Once this foundation is faulty, every other thing will be an error except the Lord has mercy and intervene.
     
    Choosing who to marry must involve God all the way. He must stand at the foundation. Once this is satisfied, every other thing is a build up on it. Never choose a covenant partner out of pressure, sentiment or looks. God won't pay for a good he didn't order for. Be wise and allow God, who knows all things choose for you.
     
    2. Start with God, continue with Him and don't fence Him out.
     
    Job 22:21  
    Acquaint now thyself with him, and be at peace: thereby good shall come unto thee.
     
    The source of a thing is the sustenance thereof. You need God all the way. Marriage is not a 10 meter dash but a marathon that will continue till death do you part. There are mountains and valleys, that only Gods help, wisdom and intervention can sort out. A marriage without God can never fulfill purpose. Let your individual relationship with God be intact. God must be at the center of it all.
     
    3. Timing is very important.
    Ecc 3:1  
    To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
     
    I believe every marriage has its seasons and times of visitation. There are some crucial season of favor, blessing and mercy.
     
    Couples need to be sensitive to know these seasons and not allow disobedience to instruction steal blessings from them.
     
    4. Marriage go through stages and seasons. Be ready and willing to learn and grow.
     
    Marriage is not all about romance and butterflies in your tummy. There are situations that will happen to test your marriage vows, commitment and covenant to each other.
     
    You have to know God and be strong. Essentially every marriage will go through three stages namely:
     
    Not Enough, Just enough and More than Enough.
     
    For all these stages different wisdom is needed at each level. Once you overcome one level, you get promoted to the next level. During these seasons, God expects us to draw strength from Him and not complain, murmur or get moody.
     
    Learn to trust in the Lord. Maintain good attitude, be joyful, keep sowing your seeds and sooner than later your heavens will be opened. Keep your mind joyful and your heavens will open.
     
    5. Male and female are very different. Be ready to make adjustments.
     
    Gen 5:2  
    Male and female created he them; and blessed them, and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created.
     
    God creates with purpose. Male and female are very different in their make up as well as their purpose and design. Even their brains are different. Their viewpoints, thought patterns, moods and reactions to situations are very different.
     
    Until knowledge is gained about these differences, there will be a lot of unnecessary misunderstandings. Apart from the male/ female differences, are the temperamental differences and background differences.
     
    You must understand your spouse's temperament, what he/she likes and dislikes. God does not expect you to try to change your spouse to be like you. You are expected to accept and celebrate your differences. You cannot change your spouse, you can only influence them. You will have to make adjustments, grow and mature in dwelling with each other with understanding. The success of your marriage has a lot to do with how matured you are.


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    PRAYER FOR THE DAY
    Lord, endue me with godly wisdom

    THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
    Colossians 3:18 (MSG)  
    Wives, understand and support your husbands by submitting to them in ways that honor the Master.

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