Three indicators that a relationship or marriage is of God

  • Perhaps, the area of relationship and marriage is so much shrouded in clueless misadventures and sometimes outright confusion, as regards the right choice.
    This is probably accentuated by the emotionalism that accompanies this area of life.
    The question is should decisions in this area be regulated by logic, emotions or spirituality?
    The answer is that all the area must be considered diligently.
    The logic takes care of the appearance, which is very important.
    The emotions takes care of the chemistry and the feelings.
    The spirituality takes care of the leading and direction.
    However, we want to particularly study from the spiritual perspective this morning.
    I want to identify to us by the help of the Holy Spirit and show you three things that are important when you are looking at a godly relationship.
    Let’s go into the scriptures.
    Romans 14:17 (KJV)  
For the kingdom of God is not meat and drink; but righteousness, and peace, and joy in the Holy Ghost.
    The kingdom of God or God’s domain is a reality when there are
    1. Righteousness
    2. Peace
    3. Joy in the Holy Ghost
    These three elements is what defines anything that has to do with God’s kingdom.
    Without them, it is just meat and drinks, and not God's kingdom.
    In other words, you don't get a spouse because you can afford meat and drinks, it goes beyond that.
    Sadly, what most people watch out for in taking their decisons are meat and drink, Dubai trips and cars!
    All those are "good," but if you are also looking at "godly," then you have to bring to the table righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Ghost.
    These three make you a child of the Kingdom.
    It just like saying what makes a Nigerian. And then, humorously, you are like there are three things.
    1. He is black
    2. He knows the definition of suffering
    3. He can survive anywhere in the world.
    So what makes a godly person or decision in God’s kingdom are those three elements; righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Ghost.
    The next question then is how is this related to relationship, courtship and marriage?
    The first of all the three is righteousness.
    This is a state of right living. It is a state which makes a person acceptable to God.
    So, you check out the life of the person before you make your decision.
    Are his or her habitual dispositions acceptable to God?
    Of course, you know by now, if you have been a regular reader or follower on KHC, what is acceptable and what is not.
    When he or she is insisting on jeru trap, that is not of the kingdom.
    When he or she has several folk that he sleeps with, it is not of the kingdom.
    When he doesn't know how to honor God and put Him first place, it is not of the kingdom.
    When he is un-repentantly caught up in sexual perversion, it is not of the kingdom.
    You get married within the kingdom of God, not without!
    If you are already married, then you have to find a way to retrace your steps back into God’s kingdom.
    That is where the fulfillment is.
    The second of all the three is peace.
    Okay, you found a suitable person, he or she is a bonafide child of the kingdom in terms of habits and practices. Committed to the covenant. A God lover and God chaser!
    Now you bring in the second line and you measure.
    Do you have peace?
    This peace is beyond feelings, it passes understanding.
    It is a state of God’s wholeness and assurance that cannot be explained by words.
    This peace is what assures you that you are on the right path.
    Now listen to me, no matter how well packaged the relationship looks, no matter how promising the marriage would seem to be, if there is no peace, DO NOT go ahead!
    This peace is God’s way of assuring you that He is with you.
    The absence of peace is what tells you that you are on your own.
    And trust me, you cannot do this in your own way or wisdom.
    This peace of God is like a security system that warns you of imminent danger.
    You have to listen to that inward voice as a child of God.
    This is important because God will never lead you wrong.
    Philippians 4:7 (AMP)  

    And God's peace [ shall be yours, that tranquil state of a soul assured of its salvation through Christ, and so fearing nothing from God and being content with its earthly lot of whatever sort that is, that peace ] which transcends all understanding shall garrison and mount guard over your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.
    The third of the three is joy in the Holy Ghost.
    If it is of God, there will be this in-explainable joy within.
    Oh, this is different from feelings.
    Feelings are temporal, fickle, and change with environment.
    Joy of the Holy Ghost is constant.
    It is either there or not.
    You are planning to get married, and then you lose your joy?
    You need to press the pause button.
    On the other hand, you have a sense of joy based on your choice and yet everything is not looking promising on the physical…but there is joy! And there is peace! Go ahead.
    Each time you are together, you are sad. You leave each other sad and depressed every time. Be careful. Wedding will not really change anything.
    Whatever it is before wedding is simply "Continua" after wedding!
    Let these three guide you in all your decisions.
    I pray for you today, you will not miss it.
    I pray for all who are married, God will re-order your steps into righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Ghost.
    As the new year approaches, I pray that my God will give you a new beginning in areas where it is needed in Jesus name!
    Be blessed!

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    Before you know it, a sense of God's wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It's wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life.

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