Dear Pastor, I Have Trust Issues With My Lover

  • Here are four reasons why you should strive to be truthful and be a person of integrity in your relationship and marriage.
    1. That is the way God wants it

    I strongly believe that God wants you to be a person who is truthful and sincere in all your dealings in life and with people.
    Take a look at the scripture:
    He that worketh deceit shall not dwell within my house: he that telleth lies shall not tarry in my sight. (Psalms 101:7 KJV)
    Look at the way The Message translation puts that:
    But no one who traffics in lies gets a job with me; I have no patience with liars…(Psalms 101:7 Message)
    Getting the fullness of God’s blessings in your life, relationship and marriage requires that you strive to be a person who is sincere.
    Now, this does not mean that once you make a mistake and tell some lies, you are down and out. Almost everybody has done that any way.
    What this is saying is that when you make such mistakes, you quickly recognize and realize it was a mistake, and you strive not to repeat such mistakes.
    However, it is a different ball game when a person is a habitual and impulsive liar! I don’t think God likes that. Basically, because God Himself is truth; and in Him is no lie.
    So, He would also want His children to be children of light, not of darkness.
    2. Trust will be built in your relationship or marriage
    When you are a person of integrity and your spouse knows, there will be trust in your relationship or marriage. It is all for you good.
    When your spouse has been disappointed many times and had to find out a lot of lies and deception, trust will be ruptured. Click To Tweet
    When trust is destroyed in a relationship or marriage, what will be left will be suspicion and mistrust.
    Even when there is nothing, he or she will be suspicious. With that, the power of agreement; which is the greatest advantage of a couple, will be tainted.
    They eventually will slow themselves down! Be a person of integrity in that relationship or marriage! Integrity preserves!
    Let integrity and uprightness preserve me; for I wait on thee. (Psalms 25:21 KJV)
    3. Life is all about seed, time and harvest
    If life is all about seed, time and harvest, then it means every time I tell a lie, get into falsehood, or I am insincere, I am sowing a seed. If the harvest will eventually come, the question is ‘what kind of harvest will come with those kind of seeds?
    If I keep deceiving her while I have somebody else I really want to get married to, that would be a wrong seed to sow into my life.
    If I start a secret relationship and try to hide from my spouse, and willfully continue in it, that would surely be a wrong seed!
    The deal is very simple; if you don’t want the whirlwind, then don’t sow the wind! Click To Tweet
    For they have sown the wind, and they shall reap the whirlwind…(Hosea 8:7a KJV)
    4. You will be able to deal with sins that thrive on secrecy
    Do you know it takes secrecy to cheat on your spouse? Do you know it takes secrecy to double date? It goes without saying then, that if you can sincere with you spouse to the last details, you will not be trapped!
    If you know you cannot but tell your spouse everything that happened, then you are cautious about what you do because you still have to say everything.
    The moment you can internalize it and hide it in marriage, you have just given the devil a foothold to operate!
    Be sincere! When you are sincere, the power of iniquity will be broken! Click To Tweet
    Don't give the Devil that kind of foothold in your life. (Ephesians 4:27 Message)
    Iniquity is perpetuated in the atmosphere of secrecy. Make up your mind to hide nothing from your spouse, and you would have freed yourself from a lot of demonic strongholds without any deliverance sessions!
    This does not necessarily mean having to dig into the past to bring out unnecessary issues that have been long forgotten and forgiven by God.
    I am talking about present issues, daily happenstances, make up your mind to hide nothing, you will be amazed at how you have liberated yourself.
    Your life of truthfulness or deception goes beyond you, it will be consequential upon your destiny, your lover, spouse, your children and generation unborn.
    This is because truthfulness or deception will inform your decisions and your decisions will inform how your life, that of your spouse and children turn out.
    Decide today to be fruitful. It pays.
    Amplified Bible sums it all.
    Proverbs 31:11 (AMP)  The heart of her husband trusts in her confidently and relies on and believes in her securely, so that he has no lack of [ honest ] gain or need of [ dishonest ] spoil.
    May God grant you more understanding.
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    I am truthful. I am sincere.

    Lord, help me to deal with every root of falsehood in my life

    Watch the way you talk. Let nothing foul or dirty come out of your mouth. Say only what helps, each word a gift. Don't grieve God. Don't break his heart. His Holy Spirit, moving and breathing in you, is the most intimate part of your life, making you fit for himself. Don't take such a gift for granted (Ephesians 4:29-30 Message)

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