How To Understand The Precious Lady In Your Life 

  • All men should read this. Forward the links to all the men in your life via Facebook, Whatsapp and other social media. All the men; father, uncle, brother, husband, fiancé, and of course all the women who love them should read as well. 

    Many years ago, a man wrote a book on how to understand men. He completed the book in three hours.

    It was not so much a best-seller. 

Then he had an idea.

    He embarked on writing another book on how to please women. It took him seventeen years. Plus he was reviewing the book and adding more pages every other day.

The book looked like this!

    How to understand women
    Well, that was a joke.

    Women are generally emotionally complex than men. 

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    Women are deep. That is why they can hold a baby for nine months without bulging. Have you ever left a baby alone with a man for thirty minutes? 

    That is why God listens to them because they understand what it means to travail. They know what it means to hold a growing life and then birth that life at the right time. 

    Understanding a lady is a journey!

    A guy who had been in courtship for seven months sat in my office and said he knows everything about her fiancé. I chuckled.
    He probably doesn't understand anything about her. 

    I have been married to my wife for eighteen years, and yet I am not quick to want to say I understand her.

I once heard a man who had been married for fifty years saying he just discovered one new thing about his wife!


    So, how do you begin the journey of understanding a woman? I am just going to give you ideas ni o! 

    1. Understand her God

    One of the most sure ways to understand that special lady in your life is to seek to understand her maker. 

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Nobody, no human being will ever understand her like God would. 

    So, the beginning of the journey is when the man develops a conscious relationship with God. 

    When you are rooted in God’s love, God will now cause His love to be shed abroad in your hearts.
    As you begin to understand the breadth, the length and the depth and height of this love, this will give you a wisdom that surpasses every effort in trying to understand her, and you will know how to do the right things that will unlock her creativity and make her feel loved.

    Eph 3:17-19 (KJV)  

    That Christ may dwell in your hearts by faith; that ye, being rooted and grounded in love,  [18]  May be able to comprehend with all saints what is the breadth, and length, and depth, and height;  [19]  And to know the love of Christ, which passeth knowledge, that ye might be filled with all the fulness of God.
    2. Understand her Needs

    Her needs are specialized and peculiar.
    They are different from your own needs.
    From spiritual needs to physically needs and emotional needs, you have to find out!

    You will immediately discover her preferences that what excites you on Television doesn't not tickle her fancy! Find out and seek to meet those needs!

    So after writing on above two, I am kind of stuck. So, I went back to our bedroom to “consult” the woman in my life for more ideas.
    I disturbed her sleep and woke her up and in her half-sleep-half-awake mode, she gave me two more points.
    Here we go. 

    3. Understand her Language

Her language is like her password. It could be gifts, words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch or acts of service. 

You don't communicate to her on your own terms but on her own terms.

    Find out her definition of “romantic” and go after that.

    The definition of the word “romantic” is not what you find in a dictionary, but there is a dictionary in her mind with its own definition like no other, authored by her, and you have to find a way to retrieve that dictionary and check the definition which would often be different from what you think.

    4. Understand her pressures
    She usually has pressures. Most times, she is not even seeking for those pressures to be taken away, because they are often necessities of life. 

    She just wants to know that there is somebody who understands what she is going though.
    Many years ago, my wife explained this to me.
    She was pouring her hearts to me, and expounding her pressures and at a point I bursted out;
    "Hey! I am not the Holy Spirit. I cannot take these things away!"
    "And then she looked at me with that her angelic face that often makes my heart to race, and said,
    "I know you are not the Holy Spirit. I am not asking you to solve these issues, I only want to have a feeling somebody understands what I am going through!
    Wow! That is what that lady in your life wants! An understanding heart.
    And that takes the pressures off the pressures!

She just wants an understanding, loving and caring man!

    Unfortunately, most times, single ladies look for this in wrong places and often fall into the hands of men who are only looking for sexual gratification.

    If you are a single lady, make your needs known to God and never offer your body in exchange for some care that will vaporise the next minute!

    Wait for the process of meeting that right man who will love you appropriately and will take care of you!

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    So, I will stop here this morning.

    Ultimately, pray for wisdom from God to help you be a good lover to your fiancée or spouse in very specific ways.
    The Holy Spirit teaches us all things, so he would offer you some ideas.

    I pray that God will give you wisdom in Jesus name!

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    Lord, shed your love abroad in my heart

    Eph 3:18 (MSG)  
    you'll be able to take in with all Christians the extravagant dimensions of Christ's love. Reach out and experience the breadth! Test its length! Plumb the depths! Rise to the heights!

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