How To Get Or Keep A Spouse When All Has Failed

  • Pro 19:14 AMP
    House and riches are the inheritance from fathers, but a wise, understanding, and prudent wife is from the Lord.
    I love the above scripture. God is interested in your relationship and marriage. God will always lead you even though He allows you to do the choosing. He will not force anyone on you. But if you ask for His direction, He will lead you and often reveal to you His best choice for you.
    It is only God that sees you in some thirty years’ time, sees your intended spouse in some years to come and knows what you will be doing before then, by then and after then, hence he knows the best person fitted for you!
    It is only God that knows the person that will still love you in another forty or fifty years. Click To Tweet
    You see, there is a plan of God for you concerning your marital life and it is important you follow that plan!
    To understand this, we will go back to the very first story of marriage in the scripture. From there, we can always see the pattern that God has established. God’s methods may change, but His underlying principles remain unchanged!
    Gen 2:18-23 KJV
    (18) And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
    (19) And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof.
    (20) And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.
    (21) And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;
    (22) And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.
    (23) And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
    In verse eighteen, God rightly said man needed a helper. So he created Eve for Adam. God created an Eve, not a Steve! God’s order is clear from the beginning! Man and another man is not God’s order. Two women in marriage is an aberration, it is not God’s order! That is just by the way.
    After God created Adam and established he needed help, God created all animals and brought them to Adam to see what He would call them. Thank God, Adam named them appropriately and didn't call a baboon a wife in the process. If Adam had looked at a monkey and said this is the bone of my bone….that would have spelt some trouble!
    This could actually have happened because verse 20 says,
    …but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.
    You must learn to name people appropriately and not go out with everybody or jump in bed with everyone and anyone! This is my boss. This is my colleague. This is just a friend! This is just an acquaintance. This is an unbeliever…
    Like Adam, you must name people rightly! Not everybody is your helper! Some are nice but they are destiny killers!
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    You must name people appropriately and you must not allow desperation to push you out of God’s will!
    Like Adam, have you been in that place where no help-meet has been found? Have you searched and prayed and fasted and yet nothing is forthcoming?
    You see, you have to cease from your own strength! Your intellectual prowess cannot get a prudent wife from the Lord. You nice manners and Queens English are irrelevant. The parameter of your cognitive abilities is not the issue here.
    Adam successfully named every creature on earth, a display of uncommon spiritual and mental energy and prowess, and yet was frustrated at the end because he could not find a spouse!
    Are you in that place like you are a graduate, but no helpmeet? You are rich and comfortable, but no helpmeet? You attend functions and join church work force and do a lot but no helpmeet? That was where Adam found himself.
    What was God’s solution to the imbroglio?
    And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept…
    Guys and ladies, you’ve got to “sleep” and allow God to lead you! Some of you have simply refused to sleep! The scripture said “and he slept,” so it was a choice. He could have said, “I am not sleeping, and just start jumping or jogging.
    After you have done all you know to do, why not just sleep and abandon yourself in God’s arms and plans for your life? You have been too much awake and yet no result!
    Just sleep and trust God to do it. When you sleep, you don’t wake up every two minutes to check your security. You just sleep. Go into deep sleep and stop sampling ladies all over the place every Sunday! You don’t even listen to messages again in church!
    By the time Adam woke up, God brought Eve to him. Ladies, don’t bring yourself, allow God to bring you! When God bring or showcases you, it comes with a revelation or conviction to your husband to be. Don’t be suggestive. Don’t sound too available. Don’t take the lead. The man is the aggressor and the lady is the responder!
    When you “sleep,” God will show you your spouse. He will bring her to you! You will see her and know! That was why, without God saying a word, Adam went into a frenzy of romantic prophecy and began to speak in tongues!
    And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
    Who told him? I wonder! But he had gone through the process of “sleeping” and allowed God to do it, so He woke up with conviction and with no doubt about who his wife was. He didn’t have to go to a mountain in Eden to pray again, He just knew because he had slept!
    The next time you want to take things into your hands and step outside His will, remember to step back and go to “sleep!”
    If you are already married and you think he or she may not be the right person, the thing to do is not give up because God can turn mistakes into miracles.
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    Ask God for the wisdom to go about it! You can still go to sleep even as a married person and wake up with a revelation on how to better handle your spouse and improve your marriage!
    I pray for you this morning that this year, God will establish all that concerns your relationship/marriage and dissolve every puzzle in Jesus name!

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