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Little things that make great difference in our Marriages
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The things that make great differences in our marriage are the little everyday virtues we add to spice up our relationships. It is so easy to ignore these little acts of kindness. One of them is making our spouses feel we prioritize them above our works, families, projects, friends, hobbies etc.
It is not so much of the quantity of time we spend with our spouse but the quality of time we spend with them.
It's our attitude and our heart that speak volumes not necessarily what we profess.
Some husbands profess they love their wives but their actions prove them wrong. Likewise wives claim to respect their husbands but most husband don't seem to sense the respect.
If our marriages are going to be what God desires it to be then we must be willing and ready to consciously and consistently do the little things that matters most to each other. These little things just makes our spouses feel they matter to us. It makes them feel they occupy a special place in our hearts. The good thing about this is that, we end up teaching each other how to be kind and tender hearted towards one another.
I will share a number of these little things and believe we will look inward and come up with little sweet actions that can make our spouse feel loved.
This becomes more needful especially in the African culture where we are not so expressive. A culture where the male gender is seen as superior and whatever the man does is acceptable and not questioned or queried.
A simple good morning with a hug and a smile, telling your spouse I love you and appreciate you, asking, 'how was your day today?', thank you, organizing a get away just for the 2 of you, praying for each other daily, forgiving each other, respecting and valuing each other's opinion, desires, choices, building each other's esteem and self confidence, laughing together, eating together, enjoying each other's company, enjoying intimacy physical, emotional and spiritual. Calling each other in the midst of our busy schedule, touching each other, the list goes on and on.
The purpose of these little jestures is to keep nourishing, feeding, tending and caring for our marriage. Nothing in life grows, flourishes or becomes great or beautiful when we neglect them. They only grow when we put attention on them consistently, and don't ignore them. -
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