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How To Overcome Crippling Fear In Relationships

Fear has stopped not too a few in possessing what belongs to them in God. Fear is a killer, a stopper. There are many people who live all through their lives in fear. Fear ruled them, governed them and dictated the pace for their lives. All decisions and actions are taken in fear. This is never the plan of God for His children.
You don’t get into a relationship in fear. You don’t get married in fear. Fear is not of God. 

Heb 2:15 (AMPC)  
And also that He might deliver and completely set free all those who through the [ haunting ] fear of death were held in bondage throughout the whole course of their lives.

Here are few truths that can help in dealing with fear. We will be looking at Psalm 91

1. Your Location 

Verse1 : He that dwelleth in the secret place of the most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty.

The word dwell is important. It means to stay and take permanent residence. His protection over my life and your life is predicated on my proximity to His presence.
My vulnerability increases when I stroll away from His presence. 

When I dabble into unrepentant sins, my protection is no longer guaranteed. Disobedience can be costly. Thank God for His grace, but shall we continue in sin that grace may abound? You have to dwell. That is the secret of abiding. When you abide, you are protected. 

When you are entangled with sexual sins, you are no longer in the secret place; you are in an open place, an easy target of the evil one! The more Samson sinned; the more his vulnerability increased. Sin is a destroyer, but His mercy beckons, and it is never too late to make amend.
2. Your speech pattern 

Verse 2: I will say of the Lord, He is my refuge and my fortress: my God; in him will I trust.
In the spiritual realm, your mouth is your might. What are you saying? What a man utters can lead him into the gutter. With the mouth you confess that Jesus is Lord, and your life is altered for good. With the mouth, a man can make commitments to the devil and his soul is sold.

Are you speaking faith or verbalizing fear? Your life will always move in the direction of your words. Learn to speak God’s word always by putting His word in your heart. 

Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. The power of life and death lies in your tongue!
3. Your Deliverance 

Verse 3: Surely he shall deliver thee from the snare of the fowler, and from the noisome pestilence.
His provision for your deliverance is not an afterthought. It has been settled. The word, is “SURELY.” It is settled. Ravaging diseases are not your portion.
The snare of the fowler is broken and we have escaped! Glory to God. 

4. Your Covering

Verse 4: He shall cover thee with his feathers, and under his wings shalt thou trust: his truth shall be thy shield and buckler.

His feathers cover you. Those feathers are impenetrable. Do you trust in His everlasting arms to protect you? The word ‘trust” is a strong word. Think about it. Do you really trust Him?
Trust in God will eliminate far completely.
The realization that someone will have to kill God before he can kill you, displaces fear in your life. We all know, nobody can get God!

It is your trust in Him that delivers the good. Remember how you trusted your mum or your dad when you were little? His truth is His word. That is your shield and buckler. God’s word, studied daily becomes your protection!

5. Your Choice 

Verse 5 & 6 Thou shalt not be afraid for the terror by night; nor for the arrow that flieth by day, Nor for the pestilence that walketh in darkness; nor for the destruction that wasteth at noonday.

Thou shall not be afraid…there will be things that will scare the life out of you, there will be things that will shake the foundation of your faith, there will be life threatening issues that will cause you to sweat in an air-conditioned room, there will be happenstances that will cause your heart to palpitate, there will be news that will unsettle you and seek to break you down…but in all of that, the instruction is very clear, thou shall not be afraid!

It is a choice you have to make, because your response will make all the difference!
Night time: There is a terror

Day time: There is an arrow that flieth..

Darkest time: There is a pestilence that walketh…

Brightest time or noon day: There is a destruction that wasteth…
n all of these, you must not be afraid because

At all times: There is God in heaven, there is Jesus with me, and there is the Spirit of God living in me!

The terror, the arrow, the pestilence and the destruction are all invalidated over my life, because of the Holy one of Israel, the Lord of Hosts is His name!

I come against the spirit of fear in your life and relationship. I declare you free in Jesus name!

I dwell in the secret place

Lord, open my eyes to see your provision of protection for me


That's right––he rescues you from hidden traps, shields you from deadly hazards. (Psalms 91:3 Message)

Meditate on Psalm 91

Exodus 27 - 29

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This Piece Is Authored By

Pastor Dunamis Okunowo

Dunamis & Sophia are facilitators of Kisses and Huggs Club. They are ministers, writers, conference speakers, relationship counselors and marriage...

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