Yesterday I started on this topic and looked at five symptoms of immaturity in your relationship. I will conclude this morning with the remaining five.
Immaturity is not a sin in itself but it can and will definitely lead to sin. Immaturity is a lack of growth or development in our necessary faculties that makes us a better person.
Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us,
The greatest negative aspect of immaturity is selfishness which is the opposite of love. Love is selfless and sacrificing.
The whole essence of relationships is giving and receiving love. Now when this love is deficient, it affects the quality of that relationship.
A relationship that is governed by being self-centered will not last.
1Co 13:4 Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
1Co 13:5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
1Co 13:6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
As believers, our aim is to develop the fruit of the spirit which is love. The more of the love of God we possess, the more we can love our spouse better. This is one of the reasons the bible tells us not to get involved with an unbeliever.
An unbeliever lacks the ability to love because he does not have the nature of God. God is love and only His children have the ability to love with the God kind of unselfish love.
Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
Here are the concluding five symptoms of immaturity.
6. You do not prioritize God and his principles in your relationship
The source of a thing is the sustenance. Marriage was God's idea and thus relationship. Not to prioritize God, the author of marriage is immaturity. It is only God's principles that can stabilize your relationship. A person who continually ignores God is not ready for marriage.
7. You are deceitful in your relationship
Every form of lies, insincerity, deception, falsehood, untruthfulness, double standards etc are all signs of immaturity.
These are childish ways of handling your relationship. Sincerity and transparency are signs that you are matured enough for relationship and ready to do it God's way.
8. You are not financially stable
Being financially stable does not necessarily mean having a car and a big apartment. It simply means being able to sustain yourself without having to beg for your daily needs. When you have to depend on your fiancé for every single dime to spend, it will affect a lot of other things. Your lover is never meant to be your Jehovah Jireh.
9. You have a low self esteem
A low or poor self esteem is also a sign of immaturity. You are matured in your emotions when you know your worth and know who you are.
You are not depending on the approval of anyone to live or feel secured. You are secured in who God and his Word says you are. Low self esteem have wrecked a lot of havoc in many relationships even leading to sexual compromises.
If any one thinks marriage will prop up the esteem, well, it is not always so.
Any form of abuse in relationship whether verbal, emotional, physical or psychological is a symptom of immaturity. Relationship is a mutual decision where no one is superior.
It is a complementary relationship where both parties brings their strength together for the benefits of both parties. Relationship is never meant to be lopsided or focused on one person as the super man or super woman.
Both are to strengthen each other and cover for each other's weaknesses.
Lord, give me strength to do it right
Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
Pray over your relationship
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