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The Issue Of Respect As a Single Part 2

Yesterday, we established how important the issue of respect is for men by God's design, assignment and the position they occupy.
Before we are done on this topic, I will by God's grace help us on how you can practically start respecting and honoring your fiancé in courtship and eventually in marriage.
But for today, I will show us five wrong mindsets that will not allow you as a lady to respect your boo.
From yesterday's devotional, the definition and synonyms of respect will help you understand what respect is
Respect is:
a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements.
admire (someone or something) deeply, as a result of their abilities, qualities, or achievements.
To help you learn respect go through the definition and synonyms of respect and note where you are lacking.
synonyms: esteem, admire, think highly of, have a high opinion of, hold in high regard, hold in (high) esteem, think much of, approve of, appreciate, cherish, value, set (great) store by, prize, treasure, look up to, pay homage to, venerate, revere, reverence, adulate,worship, idolize, put on a pedestal, lionize, hero-worship, honour, applaud, praise,favour
Five wrong mindsets that make respect difficult.
1. I am his fiancée not his junior sister
Being his fiancée also means you are his help meet to be. One of the things that make men function optimally and maximize their potential is respect.
Without respect especially from the closest person to them, it could deprive them of the needed boost to function in the capacity of the head God wants them to function in.
So being his fiancée is one of your greatest reasons to respect him.
2. He is not my boss, does he pay my salary?
Well, he may not pay your salary but your blessing is tied to respecting him eventually in marriage. Why? Because that is God's order.
In the things of God, compliance is key. When God gives an instruction, you obey without deliberation or argument.
3. Let him earn the respect
If he does things that are respectable, I will respect him
The respect you show him is not so much of out of him deserving it, it is out of following due process. Just like today, in the society, a man commands respect and attention once he is rich. Irrespective of whether he is intelligent or not, once he is rich, his riches brings him attention.
In the same way, once he is your head, you give him what belongs to him, which is respect, not just for his person but for the office he occupies.
4. He is too weak and slow
This could be as a result of his background or temperament. If a phlegmatic guy is slow and always indecisive, the solution is not to disrespect him because of his temperamental weakness but to affirm him.
What you affirm, you strengthen. Usually, opposite will attract, so it is common to find a phlegmatic guy get engaged to a Choleric lady.
With this arrangement, the lady, because of her natural leadership ability may see the guy as being incompetent as a leader.
For things to work, the choleric lady will have to submit her choleric leadership abilities and allow the guy take up the headship role at his pace. Of course, the lady giving him all the support and energy of the choleric.
5. If I show him little respect, he becomes overly bossy and egocentric
Almost turning me into his servant.
I believe most time, it is the fear of being oppressed that makes most ladies shrink away from showing respect for their fiance or husband.
But thank God, perfect love (the love of and from God) casteth away fear.
1Jn 4:18
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.
There is this ungodly fear that if you show respect to your fiancé, he will begin to oppress and take you for granted
But you know what, just like the Godhead protects the Holy Spirit, God will shield and protect and defend and fight for every woman who out of honor for God and His word respects her fiancé or husband and he wants to take advantage of her.
Every lady should focus on obeying God and performing their role as instructed by God and allow God do the rest.
God bless you.

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Pastor Sophia Okunowo

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