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Even though I never had jeru traps during courtship by Gods Grace, I believe stopping this is similar to stopping any habitual sin. It is difficult but not impossible. Here are some practical steps you can find helpful
1. You have to get to a point where your desire / resolution to stop is greater than any other thing.
2. Believe and accept the fact that YOU can stop, not the 2 of you, but you. Deal/focuss on yourself.
3. Attach pain with jeru trap. Understand the pain, heartache, future regret etc that is associated with jeru trap.
4. Tell yourself its not worth it. The pain (present & future) outweights whatever pleasure you think jeru trap has.
5. take 2 or 3 scriptures you will meditate on, that tells you the victory you already have in Christ to overcome jeru trap.
6. Cut off communication from your jeru trap partner. Avoid any close contact.
7. Avoid all compromising atmosphere. There are atmosphere that encourage jeru trap, avoid them like a deadly plague.
8. Be open & accountable.
9. Take your spiritual life every seriously, daily spiritual exercise like reading Gods word, prayer, praise, meditation, servcing in a local assembly
10. Aviod wrong associations, negative influences from magazines, music, films or any thing that can rekindle your desire for jeru trap.