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Thank you joor.
For saying you admire him. Sincerity.
It is a normal thing for a pastor who is single to desire to have a spouse. Such a pastor would admire a sister, seek the Lord concerning her, get convinced, then he would ask her out.
When a pastor tells you his proposal or 'toasting effort' is part of spiritual mentoring, sister, please and please, run for your life.
This is an abuser, a person in a privileged position of authority who is going to use the opportunity to ruin you.
This is the language of demagogues in positions of spiritual authority. A person who knows he has influence over you is trying to use that influence to ride into your life.
Somebody who loves you will seek to toast you as a man, not as your prophet, at least initially.
Chances are that he has other spiritual mentees, in the same church.
It is also possible he is a sincere person who used the wrong words inadvertently. No matter what, he is a control freak...
Out of the abundance of the heart....
Don't seek to understand fully, just run...
First you didn't tell us if your Pastor is married or not,Assuming He is single and looking for a spouse( which is normal),you still need to ask the basic questions, Where is the destination of the relationship he is wants?Has He prayed and heard from God?On the other hand you also need to pray and hear God for your self before giving in or not.