April 30, 2016 10:57 PM CEST
English Standard Version of Colossians 3:19 says:
Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. Then 3:18 of the same Colossians says: Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.
When the Bible says love, please love her adequately and she inturn will be submissive, that way even if the Pastor promises her Heaven on earth, she'll know only you infact she'll even confide in you incase of any foul play on the part of the Pastor. Then dwell more on the world of God and pray always. Fear not, the Lord is with you and still on the Throne. Blessings!